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I’m ashamed to admit that I watch the show Bridezillas. Having found nothing interesting to watch on TV one day, I stumbled upon this show and was intrigued. For starters, I was amazed at the kind of women (brides-to-be) that were on this show. Where did the show’s producers find them? And were these women really like this, or were they putting on an act for the show? (It’s hard to tell what’s truly real with reality TV sometimes.)

At the end of each episode of Bridezillas, there is always a wedding ceremony. Sometimes I feel it’s done to prove to the viewers that the couple did indeed get married. It seems that thus far, regardless of the bride-to-be’s atrocious behavior (really atrocious sometimes) towards her family, friends and sometimes soon-to-be-husband, the couple still ties the knot at the end. What I find interesting though, is that often times, these ceremonies (religious or not) don’t include the words until death do us part. I always assumed that this is a given in a wedding ceremony, with the exception being those couples who write their own vows, but upon watching this show and seeing countless ceremonies, I’ve noticed very few couples say these words (even though they did not write their own vows).

This makes me wonder. A few weeks, months or years down the road, can a couple call it quits because technically they aren’t breaking their vows? After all, they never did promise to be with each other until death does them part anyways.

You see, there is a certain weight that goes with wedding vows and to me they are not to be taken lightly. After all, a vow is a solemn promise, and I don’t know about you, but a promise made should be a promise kept. Granted, there are some couples who remain committed to each other until the very end regardless of whether they get married or not, or say the words until death do us part. But let’s face it, such couples are the exception not the norm. Most of us, especially during times of strife in a marriage need to be reminded of those words. …I know I do.

We need to be reminded of what we promised to each other on our wedding day. We need to be reminded of what we said to each other in front of God, our family and friends. We need to be held accountable for our words. At the same time, this does not mean that the words until death do us part are used to suffocate our spouses in marriage. These words not meant to be thrown at our spouse in anger, or as a threat to stay in an abusive, unhealthy marriage (because an unhealthy, abusive relationship is already breaking the other vows you made to respect, honor, love, cherish and each other).

Human beings make mistakes. Couples makes mistakes. This means marriage can sometimes be a long, uphill, bumpy ride for couples, even for those couples in really good marriages. The words until death do us part then are meant to remind us that we need to stay the course of this journey we are on. Remember, a vow is a solemn promise, and as my former 7-year-old self would often say, a promise is a promise!