You are a unique individual. Your spouse is a unique individual. Together, you make a unique couple. As a result, the way you and your spouse interact with each other and function as a unit is different from any other couple on this planet. Things that work for you and your spouse don’t necessarily work for other couples. Similarly, things that work for other couples may not necessarily work for you and your spouse. For instance, there are some couples who are into girls night out and boys night out, while other couples prefer to do things together. Some couples take separate vacations, while others look forward to taking a vacation together. Some couples prefer to live together before marriage, others don’t feel the need to. Some couples have separate bank accounts; others have only joint accounts. Some couples prefer to have children, while others would rather not go down that road. Some couples have pets, while others feel that pets are too much extra work. The list goes on and on and on!
In a way, every couple feels that their way is the right way because it makes sense to them, and because it works for them. But just because certain things (e.g. separate vacations or living together) work in one relationship, does not necessarily mean that it will work for your relationship. It may, but it also may not. So, when another couple tells you how they do things, how they function and what works for them, take the information for what it is. Don’t feel that you and your spouse need to function like this other couple too. If you want to, you can. If you don’t want to, you don’t have to. At the end of the day, whatever you end up doing has to work for you, as well as your spouse… In the words of Mr. Sinatra, I’m doin’ it my way, and I think that you should do it YOUR way too! 😀