When I was younger and in that exciting dating stage of life, I always felt the need to talk! I felt that I should have a TON of things to talk about with a potential boyfriend when on a date. After all, if we didn’t have anything to say to each other, then we must have nothing in common, right? In fact, looking back at my husband and I during the date stage, I realize that I did 90% of the talking. Okay…I’ll be honest, it was more like 95%! (Perhaps it was that 95% listening that my husband did at the time, that attracted me to him! lol)
Now however, there are days when I have nothing much to say, or just don’t feel like talking. And I’ll be honest. In the beginning when this started to happen, I was worried. I thought, why aren’t we conversing? Have we run out of things to say to each other already?? I was also under the impression that I should have something to talk about with my husband, all the time, (exception is when we’re sleeping, watching TV or in different parts of the house)…. otherwise there must be something wrong between us. This thought was usually followed by me trying to fill in the gaps of silence by starting a conversation about a completely nonsensical topical. (Btw–there is nothing more excruciatingly painful than talking about something just for the sake of talking!)
But then I realized something….perhaps this silence between us isn’t a bad thing, or something to be concerned about. We still enjoy being with each other. We still enjoy each other’s company. In fact, sometimes we just like having the other person around, even though we may not feel the need to talk to them. It’s a nice feeling.
I’m slowly starting to enjoy these moments of silence now. (Even more so as I near closer to my child-bearing years, because I realize that these days are numbered!) … As the weekend draws near, I’m looking forward to relaxing with my husband on our patio. Will we have a lot to say to each other? Who knows! Does it matter? Not anymore!