In the dating stage, we are never short of praise for our significant other. We tell them that they are beautiful / handsome, that they are smart, that they are funny….basically, that they are the most amazing person in the world and that we are lucky to be with them.
As the years go by though, and we settle into a nice comfortable pattern with our significant other, these words may become something of a memory. We don’t say them as often, if at all. We may take these things for granted. Perhaps we think to ourselves, of course, my husband / wife knows how I feel about them. Isn’t it obvious?!
But the truth is, it may not be. While it is true that actions speak louder than the words (by the way, it defeats the purpose if someone says you are the most amazing person in the world, but treats you in a clearly less than amazing way–a topic for another post!)… words are pretty powerful too! We know this for a fact, when we use our words to hurt each other during a fight. By this same token though, we can use our words to do just the opposite. We can use our words to praise each other more often! Tell your spouse more often how hot / smart / funny they are. Or how much you appreciate them, or that you are blessed to have them in your life… Tell them this even if you think they already know you feel this way. (It never hurts to be repetitive when you are saying something good!) …You’d be surprised at how little comments like these, can go a long way in positively impacting your relationship. 🙂